Prostitution, Adultery & The Sexploitation Of Nigerian Women By Nigerian Women

By

Kòmbò Mason Braide (Ph.D.)

[Port Harcourt, Nigeria]

kombra@phca.linkserve.com

Preamble & Essential Digressions:

“He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.”

- Jesus Christ  (c 33 AD)

In some parts of Papua New Guinea (1), an aspiring bride worth her sugar must, as a matter of rudimentary courtesy, sound parental up-bringing, and solid character, have sex with every man in the village as part of their traditional wedding protocol, in order to affirm her dignity and also guarantee her fertility, in strict conformity with their cherished, rich, and ancient culture! Meanwhile, in another part of the same Papua New Guinea, members of the Dani ethnic nationality rarely have sex. By tradition, in order to acquire sufficient respectability, newly wedded couples must wait for as long as 5 years before they copulate.

In Cooks Islands (1), located in the South Pacific Ocean, older married women have the exclusive statutory and civic duties of routinely introducing, initiating, instructing, grooming, and practicalising the science and art of advanced reproductive dynamics with teenage boys. Their religion cautions them that repeated indulgence in less than three (3) solid “rounds” per 24 hours, ultimately leads to acute schizophrenia.

Eskimos in Northern Canada and Greenland have drastically simplified the process of wedding. Marriages are arranged at birth (1). Eskimo law demands that marriages can only be deemed official if, and only when, such couples start copulating. At the exact moment of their debut pre-marital sexual experimentation, they are automatically translated to the realm of graciously married husband and wife. No further ceremonies are needed, or may even be tolerated by their strict marital ethics and etiquette. Different strokes for different folks. Different lanes for different brains. Simple!

At this point, we might as well ask: Where, precisely, is the baseline for accurately assessing promiscuity? Who then is a prostitute? Why does one woman’s indulgence in debauchery and apparent nymphomania become another woman’s expression of heavenly love, guided sensuality, respectable womanhood, political correctness, and passport to high social and moral standing? Why does prostitution thrive? What constitutes sexual exploitation (sexploitation)? What is the long-term utility of all the “aggressive” anti-prostitution “pet projects” and crusades of their Excellencies, the spouse of the Executive Governor of Edo State, and that of the Vice President of the Federal Republic of Nigeria? Why did those high-profile moral crusaders not actively object, or even join in the recent deafening global uproar against the proposed stoning to death of a fellow Nigerian woman, Ms. Safiya Hussain, because she got pregnant with, or without her consent, and without being married? Why is an institution like prostitution, that is so very well known to almost every living imbecile on earth, suddenly, being rediscovered in Nigeria? Why should an ancient institution that sociologists have researched and understood reasonably well, now appear to be of such crucial concern to Nigerians? Why?

Our task is to take a global look at the institution of prostitution, given the quantum of apparent paranoia caused so far about the exploitation of Nigerian prostitutes, both at home and abroad. We will also attempt to gain a better understanding of prostitution at the global level, and hopefully, provide answers to the many interesting questions above.

Background & Statement Of The Problem:

The utter futility of applying legislative methods in coping with prostitution is obvious. Governmental suppression and moral crusades accomplish nothing meaningful except driving the problem underground, multiplying its hazards to society. The more rigorous the method of harassment, the worse the condition becomes. For example, in 1560, Charles IX abolished brothels in France by royal decree. However, the numbers of French whores simply increased, while many new brothels mushroomed in previously unknown places and in unsuspected forms, and therefore, more dangerous. In spite of all such draconian laws, or rather, because of them, there has been no other country in which prostitution played a more prominent role as it did in France (6)


Until 1894 very little was known about sexual service providers and their clients in the US of A. At that time, America was attacked by a contagion of self-righteousness and uprightness. Vice was to be summarily eradicated, and the country duly decontaminated at all cost. Prostitution was therefore driven out of sight, but deeper into the body and soul of Americans. Keepers of brothels, as well as their unfortunate tenants,  prostitutes, were turned over to the compassionate mercies of the police. Thereafter, the inevitable damage of exorbitant bribes, jails, protection racketeering, and blatant extortion followed.

Formerly, while they were comparatively protected in their brothels, suddenly, American prostitutes found themselves on the streets, completely at the mercy of greedy bribe-hungry policemen. Desperate, needing protection and longing for affection, those girls naturally proved an easy prey for pimps, themselves the result of the mood of a new dawn of international trading and commerce. Thus, pimping was an offshoot of police harassment, corruption, and attempted clampdown on prostitution. Mere suppression and barbaric criminalisation can embitter, and further degrade the unfortunate victims. Foolhardiness has reached its highest expression in a proposed law that makes any humane treatment of prostitutes a crime in the US, punishable by five years of imprisonment and a US$10,000 fine. Such an attitude merely exposes the terrible lack of understanding of the true causes of prostitution, as a social factor, as well as manifesting a “holier-than-thou” posture.

In Nigeria, all of a sudden, social “reformers” seem to have made an earth-shattering breakthrough: Indeed, they have re-invented the wheel of cross-border trading and trafficking in young and old women for sex. Nigerians have been force-fed their due rations of denunciations of “modern day slavery”, while their lawmakers are scheduling new laws to curb the blight. By and large, whenever public opinion is to be hijacked, sidetracked, tele-guided, derailed, or anaesthetised, a crusade is launched, (with a general theme conjured  from a basket of foggy ideas like “Operation Feed the Nation” (OFN which, very coincidentally, is the acronym for Obasanjo Farms Nigeria), WAI, Viagra, PTF, armed robbery, Sharia, corruption, 419, Abacha, “True Federalism”, secret cults, the hazards of “pure water”, Maradona, prostitution, banishing HIV/AIDS and malaria from Africa; guided  deregulation, foreign investors, adultery, “resource control”, drug barons, phantom coups, ”no vacancy” in Aso Rock, 2003, self-succession, Afghanistan, poverty alleviation, undue radicalism, etc, ad nauseam). Funny enough, there is almost always a corresponding increase in individual depravity and general indiscipline in Nigeria, subsequent to such crusades.

Prostitution has been, and is, a widespread problem, yet humanity goes about its business, perfectly blasé about the ordeals of the victims of prostitution. To believe that the new-wave curiosity (indeed, a very phoney curiosity for that matter) about trafficking of young and old women for sexual gratification) has discovered anything new, is, to say the very least, patently dim-witted. Nigerians are as indifferent to sexploitation as they have been to similar other manifestations of political and economic prostitution within their country.

It is only when tragedies become playthings, complete with blinking colourful lights, that toddlers become excited and interested, even if momentarily. Nigerians have been taken for infants that must be distracted daily with new toys. The “righteous" outcry against teenage, and/or “mature” prostitution is one such toy. It serves to amuse Nigerians for a little while, and it helps to create a few more juicy jobs for political pests (sycophants and official praise-singers) to perambulate across the globe as “pet project” co-ordinators, liaison persons, Special Advisers, inspectors, investigators, and so on, and so forth, maybe, until 2003.

What, exactly, is the driving mechanism for the trafficking of (African, European, Asian, Caribbean, Arab, American, or Russian) women? The answer is simple: Exploitation. Exploitation drives thousands of under-paid young girls and even older women into prostitution. They think rather naively, "Why waste your life working for a few naira a month?” Naturally, our “reformers” say nothing about the cause. They know it well enough, but it is much more convenient to pretend an outraged morality, than to go to the very bottom of the matter.

Sociological studies have shown that modern (industrial) society leaves most women almost no alternative except prostitution. Most prostitutes belong to the lowest stratum of society: the working class. Nowhere is woman treated according to the merit of her work, but rather as a sex object. It is therefore almost inevitable that she should pay for her right to exist, to keep a position in whatever line, with sex favours. Thus, it is merely a question of details whether a woman sells herself to one man, in or out of marriage, or to many men. Whether our Nigerian moral crusaders and “reformers” admit it or not, the economic and (benign or overt) social inferiority imposed on woman is responsible for prostitution worldwide.

Nigerians must be rudely shocked out of their individual complacency and collective naïveté by recent disclosures that in New York City, US of A, about 10% of the women work in factories, where their average wage, for working between 48 ~ 60 (forty-eight to sixty) hours weekly, is US$6 (six dollars). Majority of them face many months of idleness, bringing their average wage to about US$280 per annum in New York, about the same as the per capita income of a typical Third World citizen. In view of these economic nightmares, why should prostitution and women trafficking not become so prevalent? For the benefit of the sceptics, we will review what some authorities on prostitution have to say:

A Global Review of the Operating environment of Prostitutes:

A major cause of prostitution can be evaluated, using data on the employment status and wages of prostitutes before they took on to active prostitution. It is left for political economists to decide how far business considerations may be used as excuses for prostitution, which, in the first place, is the direct result of insufficient compensation of honest work. Our present-day “reformers” would do well to know that, out of some 2,000 cases studied recently (4), very few prostitutes actually came from the middle class, or from well-ordered environments, or from stable families. Some working girls and working women went into prostitution out of sheer necessity, others because of the cruel and abject circumstances of their  homes, others again, because of disillusionment. In addition, it will do much good if the “puritans” and “moralists” know that about 25% of the prostitutes studied were married women, who actually lived with their husbands. Clearly, not even the “sanctity of marriage” could guarantee their “fidelity”, “security”, and “purity".

A school of though is very emphatic about the economic roots of prostitution (5). The argument is that, although prostitution existed in all past eras, it was in the 19th century that it developed into a gigantic business network. The development of industry with vast numbers of players in the competitive global market, the rapid growth and congestion of large cities, the insecurity and uncertainty of employment, gave prostitution the impetus it had in 19th century Europe. A large percentage of prostitutes is recruited from the lowest social classes. The daily routine, drudgery, and tedium of a “house help” are non-trivial factors that force her to seek relaxation and escapism in the merriment and sparkle of prostitution, given the fact that she may never partake of the luxury of positive group identity, and/or experience the thrills of a happy family. In other words, an economically challenged (house) girl, more or less treated as a slave, never having the right to herself, and worn out by the whims and brainwaves of her “madam”, or/and “oga”, and/or “madam’s children”, and in fact, anybody, can find an outlet, just like her “corporate, upward mobile, professional, Iron Lady” peer, only via prostitution.

The most amusing aspect of the matter is the zeal with which "highly-placed and respectable people" like the various “Her Excellencies”, “Women Party Leaders”, pseudo-feminist NGOs and religious purists, almost always champion every anti-prostitution campaign in Nigeria. Could it be that they are ignorant of the history of religion, especially of the Christian religion? Alternatively, is it because they conspire to blind the present generation to the part that religion played in the past, vis-à-vis prostitution? Whatever their reasons, they should be the last to cry out against today’s unfortunate victims, since it is known to every intelligent student that prostitution is of religious origin, nurtured and propped up for several centuries, not as an act of ignominy, but as a positive personal attribute.

The deep roots of prostitution may be traced to religious tradition. For instance, there are well-documented examples in the fifth century BC, at a Temple in Babylon, where every woman, once in her life, went and presented herself to the first unfamiliar man who threw a coin between her thighs, in order to worship and meditate effectively. Similar customs existed in some parts of Asia, North Africa, and Mediterranean Europe, especially in Greece, at the Temple of Aphrodite. All authoritative writers on the subject maintain the theory that religious prostitution developed out of the belief that human reproduction possessed a mysterious and sacred influence in promoting natural abundance. Gradually, however, when prostitution finally became an organised enterprise under priestly influence, religious prostitution became utilitarian, thus helping to boost public revenue for the Treasury.

The rise of religion to political power produced little change in policy. The leading patriarchs of the early Roman Catholic Church tolerated prostitution. Brothels under municipal protection existed in 13th century Europe. They constituted a sort of public service whose operatives and managers were considered almost as civil servants. (6)  Pope Clement II promulgated a decree that was benevolent enough to have allowed Italian prostitutes to be tolerated for as long as they paid a stipulated percentage of their gross earnings to the Vatican. Pope Sixtus IV was more practical. From one single brothel that he built, he received regular and reasonable returns on his wise investment. However, now, in the 21st century, churches are a little more tactful and painstakingly hypocritical. They no longer openly insist on dues, taxes and levies from prostitutes. It is much more efficient, profitable, and less of a hassle to rent out sub-standard and over-invoiced buildings to prostitutes through reliable and God-fearing third party (preferably “Born Again”) surrogates!

Conditions in the Middle Ages were remarkably interesting. Prostitution was organised into trade unions, ultimately presided over by an experienced harlot: a “Queen”. Those unions employed strikes as powerful weapons for improving their conditions of service and for negotiating reasonable consultancy service charges. It would be extremely frivolous to argue that economic factors constitute the only cause of prostitution. There are several others. Our “reformers” know very well, but they dare not discuss a topic that saps the very life out of men and women, the “Sex Question”, the very mention of which causes most people moral paroxysms.

Worldwide, more or less, women are being brought up as sex objects, and yet they are kept in absolute ignorance of the meaning and importance of sex. Everything dealing with that subject is suppressed. Anybody that tries to shed any light on this terrible darkness is either victimized or ridiculed. Nevertheless, it is true that so long as a girl does not know how to take care of herself, not to know the function of the most important aspect of her life, we need not be surprised if she becomes an easy prey to prostitution, or to any other form of relationships which degrade her to the position of a mere pleasure object.

We have long ago taken it as self-evident that boys may follow the call of the wild. In other words, that a boy may, as soon as his libido asserts itself, satisfy it. However, our moralists are scandalized at the very thought that the sexuality of a girl should assert itself. To the moralists, prostitution does not matter so much simply because a woman sells her body, but rather because she sells it out of wedlock. That this is no mere statement is confirmed by the fact that, marriage, for monetary considerations, is considered perfectly legitimate, sanctified by law and public opinion, while any other union is condemned and repudiated. Yet a prostitute, if properly defined, means nothing else than "any person for whom sexual relationships are subordinated to gain”. (4) In fact, prostitution is intrinsically equal to that of a man or woman who contracts a marriage for economic advantage.

Of course, marriage is the ultimately desirable goal of most young girls. However, since a significant proportion of them cannot or may not marry, our stupid social norms condemn them either to a life of celibacy or prostitution. Unfortunately, human nature asserts itself regardless of man-made laws. There is no plausible reason why nature should adapt itself to a perverted conceptualisation of morality.

Society considers the sex experiences of a man as attributes of his general development, while similar experiences in the life of a woman are looked upon as a terrible catastrophe, a loss of honour and of all that is good and dignified in a human being. This double standard of morality has played a major role in the creation and perpetuation of prostitution. It involves the keeping of young girls in absolute ignorance on sex matters, which so-called "innocence”, together with a pent up and subdued sexuality, helps to bring about the very state of affairs that our puritans are now so anxious to eradicate or prevent. Not that the gratification of sex must lead to prostitution, it is the cruel, heartless, and criminal harassment of those who dare deviate from the vicious cycles of deprivation, hopelessness, and poverty that are responsible for it.

For example, most “house helps”, some of them, mere children, work for 12 ~ 16 hours daily, which tends to keep them in a constant state of disorientation. Many of them have no comforts of any kind; and so, the street, or some other place of cheap amusement, is the only means of forgetting their daily routine. This naturally brings them into close proximity with the opposite gender. It is hard to say which of the two factors brings a girl's over-sexed condition to a climax. Nevertheless, it is certainly the first step towards prostitution. It is not her fault. On the contrary, it is the fault of those moralists, who condemn a girl for all eternity, just because she strayed away from the "path of virtue"; without the formal approval of the most dominant Middle Eastern religions in Nigeria: Christianity and Islam.

A young girl feels like a complete outcast, with the doors of her home and society firmly closed in her face. Her entire training and indoctrination is such that she feels rather depraved and fallen, and therefore has no firm ground to stand upon, or any support that will lift her up, instead of dragging her down. Thus, society creates the victims that it futilely attempts to salvage afterwards. The meanest, most depraved and decrepit old man still considers himself too good to take as his wife a girl whose charm he was once quite willing to buy, even if he might thereby save her from a life of emotional trauma. Such girls cannot even turn to their fellow women, their more fortunate “sisters”, and “aunties” for help. Instead, their luckier “big sisters”, “sugar aunties” and “sweet mummies”, in their stupidity, quite too often, see themselves as too “pure and chaste”, without even realising the irony that their own predicaments, in many respects, are even more horrendous than those of their prodigal “baby sisters” of the street.

The respectable but mercenary wife, so-called woman of substance, cash madam, and “mother of the day” at high society weddings, who actually schemed out, aggressively psyched her “rivals”, and eventually married for money, compared with the prostitute, is the ultimate victim. (6) She is paid less, gives much more in return in the form of labour and constant “tender loving care”, and is absolutely bound to her “oga” and master, her husband. The prostitute never signs away her rights to any person. She retains her freedom and personal rights. She is definitely not obliged to submit to any particular man's embrace unconditionally: “for better or for worse”, for whatever it is worth.

In the European Union (EU), for example, about 50% of all married men patronise prostitutes. It is through this “virtuous” route that married women (and even their children) end up being infected with strange venereal diseases. Yet society has not even a word of condemnation for such men, while no law is too monstrous to be set in motion against their helpless victims. Those who patronise prostitutes do not only prey upon them, but they (the prostitutes) are also completely at the mercy of every egunje-addicted policeman on the beat, treacherous plain-clothes CID operatives on the prowl, idle sadistic O/Cs and DPOs at the police station, and even diabolical prison warders nationwide.

Equally blown out of proportion is the cliché that the majority of Nigerian street girls in European, Asian, American, and South African cities were necessarily engaged in the business of prostitution before they left Nigeria. Most of them were driven into prostitution by prevailing conditions of excessive display of vain materialism and inordinate consumerism in Nigeria and in their host counties abroad, which, of course, necessitates money. Money that they cannot earn legitimately in offices, or shops or factories in Europe, America, or Asia, or even Nigeria. In other words, there is no reason to believe that any set of men would take the risk and expense of patronising Nigerian prostitutes, when the market is over-flooded with thousands of their own girls. On the other hand, there is sufficient evidence to prove that the export of Nigerian girls for the purpose of prostitution is by no means marginal.

A former US Assistant State Attorney of Cook County, Illinois, made a public indictment that American prostitutes are routinely shipped to Panama for the express use of Americans on active military service there. He lost his job thereafter. It is not advisable for men in high public office to tell such tales. The excuse given for the conditions in Panama is that there were no decent brothels there. That is the usual escape route for a hypocritical society that dares not face the truth. Prostitution always only exists elsewhere, preferably and most likely, in Nigeria! Our very own respectable, “Holy Marys” and “Virgin Mariams” of the master bedrooms of executive power, unfortunately reinforce their stereotype.

In Yokohama, Hong Kong, and Shanghai, American prostitutes have made themselves so conspicuous that in the Far East, "American girl" is synonymous with “prostitute”. While American prostitutes in China are under the protection of their embassy, Chinese prostitutes in the US of A have no such protection at all. Most Western European  and Asian major cities (London, Paris, Amsterdam, Copenhagen, Brussels, Rome, Milan, Madrid, Lisbon, Munich, Berlin, Oslo, Naples, The Hague, Singapore, Hong Kong, and Bangkok), all have their so-called “Red Light Districts” that are well known and even proudly exhibited to tourists.

In view of all of the above, it is rather absurd to point to Nigeria as the cesspit from where all the social syndromes of Europe, Asia, and America originate. Nigerian girls and women hardly migrate to strange lands, unless they have some sort of ties or relations that take them there. The Nigerian girl is not that adventurous. In fact, only until recently, the average Nigerian girl never left home alone, not even so far as the next village or town, except it was to visit some relative. Is it then believable that young Nigerian girls would leave their parents or families, travel across thousands of kilometres to strange lands, through the influence and promises of strange forces? Definitely, there will be exceptions, but to state that large numbers of Nigerian girls are imported for prostitution, or any other purpose, is simply not to understand the psychology of Nigerians.

To ascribe the increase in prostitution to alleged importation, or to the growth of the pimping system, or similar causes, is highly superficial. As for pimping, abhorrent as it is, it is essentially a phase of modern prostitution: a phase accentuated by tyranny and corruption, resulting from self-righteous moralisations and sporadic crusades against prostitution. The client of a prostitute is, of course, a very poor specimen of humanity, but in what manner is he more despicable than a police officer who takes the last lire, penny, cent, euro, or yen from a Nigerian prostitute overseas, only to turn around and lock her up in a police cell? Why is the pimp more criminal, or a greater pain in the neck to society than the owners of department stores and factories, who grow fat on the sweat of the pimp, only to drive him to the streets? There is absolutely no justification for pimping, but it is very difficult to appreciate why a pimp should be so cruelly hounded, while the real perpetrators of all social iniquity enjoy immunity and respect. It is well to remember that it is not the pimp who makes the prostitute. Our charade and hypocrisy create both the prostitute and the pimp.

Enlightened public opinion, completely unencumbered from all manner of legalese and self-righteous moralisations about prostitution, could significantly help to ameliorate present conditions. An ostrich-like wilful shutting of eyes and ignoring prostitution as a social factor of 21st century life will only aggravate matters. We must rise above our naive notions and "holier-than-thou” posturing, and learn to recognise in the prostitute a product of our collective social dilemmas. Such a realisation would brush aside the attitude of hypocrisy, and insure a greater understanding and more humane treatment. As for a radical and complete eradication of prostitution, nothing can accomplish that except a complete transvaluation of all accepted norms especially those that are anchored on selective morality, coupled with the abolition of 21st century slavery. The complete dismantling and abandonment of consumerist factory production macho mentality.

References:

  1. Better Lover Magazine: “Sex Shockers From Around The World”, Vol. 5; No. 35; (2001)
  2. Saint John: “The Enmity of The Pharisees” The Holy Bible; New Testament; Saint John’s Gospel Chapter. 8; verse 7; (King James version)
  3. E. Goldman: “Anarchism and Other Essays”. Second Revised Edition; Mother Earth Publishing Association, New York & London; (1911).
  4. Dr. Sanger: “The History of Prostitution”
  5. Dr. Alfred Blaschko: Prostitution in the Nineteenth Century”.
  6. H. Ellis:  “Sex and Society”.
  7. Guyot: “La Prostitution”.
  8. Bangert:Criminalité et Condition Economique”.

 

 

 

Dr. Kòmbò Mason Braide

 

1st April 2002.