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To My Sister (Jigawa State) with Tears By Kabiru
Inuwa Tsakuwa (D\Kudu) Tsakuwa2000@yahoo .com
When
in 1991, you were initiated into the world of adulthood I was very much
elated. I felt on top of the world, that I nearly forget my name knowing
fully well that you will be independent and free from me, your Elder
sister, to pursue your goals with zeal, vigor and determination.
Unfortunately, you have the singular misfortunes of being married to
successive un-caring husbands, some khaki wearing, while others
Babbarriga wearing hyenas. At the
inception of the forth and fifth republic, my hope was aroused once
again, that a truly responsible husband that has the fear of the
All-mighty will marry you this time around. But alas, the story is that
of a visionless, focus less and purposeless, wayward husband who
didn’t know the right of a wife over her husband. In 1991, you
were a beautiful bride, waiting for prospective suitors to come and take
your hands in marriage. But suddenly you became a MIZWAJA (a woman that
marries frequently), your children are now scattered from centre of
commerce, to centre of learning, from centre of unity
to center of excellence, while some have even left the shore of You
represented a perfect story in despair. You qualify as a perfect example
in the art of wife battering (mis-governance). You are so emasculated,
so emaciated, and your breast is so etiolated, that you can neither
conceived let alone breastfeed your babies. You are just 13 years old,
but have quickly reached the age of menopauses as a result of your
husband’s non-challant attitudes. Oh my
sister, I’m deeply troubled when I discovered that, even some of your
children are now deserting you. They don’t want be identified as your
sons and daughters. I’m in tears when I found that, there is no body
to come to your rescue. I’m flabbergasted to acknowledge that your
erring husband has so artfully silenced any prospective suitors. It’s
very disheartening that, you don’t even have your husband’s time.
All line of communication have been cut off, only through THURRAYYA can
you hear his voice from afar. But part of the right of a wife over her
Husband includes giving her his Time, finding out any problem with a
view to proper ring solution and last but the least satisfying her
Sexual desire. My sister,
when will you wake up from slumber and gather your children, both within
and without (Diaspora) to collectively fight an un-caring husband? For
how long shall you continue to tolerate irresponsibility? And why did
you allow your self to be so battered that, any prospective suitor will
not differentiate between you and DARFUR in southern Sudan, SHENDAM in
southern Plateau, or FALLUJA in troubled southern Iraq? I pity you
my sister, whenever I observed what is happening to me, your elder
sister. I have so many advantages over you. I will mention very few, for
the sake of your Health, for I don’t want you to suffer a serious
Health complication. Firstly, I have a very Humane, pious, sensible,
focus, result oriented, caring and loving Husband who is seventy to
eighty five percent prefect in every department, in fact, he is so
caring that he even asked me to seek for divorce whenever he waver in
the discharge of his responsibilities towards me. Secondly, eventhough
most of my children are not Educated in the western (Nasara) sense, they
are nevertheless more enlightened than most of southern professors who
cannot differentiate between issues and trivialities. They are more
focus, more current than most of those so-called professors who
generally acquire their papers through various means; at least my
children can think rationally and look beyond their ethnic enclave in
matters of National importance. I’m glad
to let you know that, despite serious Economic maladies afflicting my
children, due to macro and micro-economic maladministration of stooges,
puppets, neocolonialist errand boys, you can visibly see from their
faces, that they are contented and satisfied with the way and manner
their MUM is being taken care of. I now enjoyed maximum security that
even the yan-daba among them have sheathed their swords and no longer
troubled me. I now sleep with both eyes closed. Glory be to All-mighty
Allah (S. W. T.) But all this
does not come on a platter of gold, I have to suffered a lot, I have to
mobilized my children to fight my former husband who happened to be much
better than your husband in every material particular. What a double
tragedy my sister! I’m
concerned about your pathetic condition my dear sister that
is why I accommodated majority of your scattered flocks. In fact,
I have the largest concentration of your children. This is all due to
brotherly concern, you are my sister, and we share so many things in
common namely: geographical location, weather, ideology, and destiny
matter of factly. Remember I was once chased out of Nigeria Briefly, a
year before you were initiated into adulthood. So whatever
happens to you has a direct bearing on me. But I’m tired of your
husband’s shameless globe trotting all in the name of getting what to
eat. Even though it’s acceptable to tell your wife bunch of lies as
Men often use to do (Allahu A’alam) in-order to control their family
and be at peace, but for how long shall you continue to tolerate an
apparent insensitivities and flirting? My dear sister, enough is enough!
My beloved
sister, are you aware that in the area where I live today, there are two
duplex Houses, that are own by some of your prominent sons. Where it’s
alleged that, part of your son’s wealth used to be shared there! What
lent credence to above assertion was that, when ever there is revenue
allocation at the federal level to state and local governments, those
Houses suddenly became a During the
2003 selection my Emir contributed significantly toward conceiving the
Nikah (marriage) between my self and my Husband. He served both as
Waliyyi as well as one of the Shaidu (witness). My eternal glory goes to
Allah (s. w. t.) alone, and I beseeched Him to reward my Emir with
Longer life in health and prosperity (Allah ya ja Zamani). But my
sister why? You have the advantage of having five waliyyai and shaidu
who served the purpose at the conceptions of your marriage. My sister
what went wrong? Perhaps your problems may be attributed partly to the
deepening conspiracy of silence of your principal witnesses. I learnt
authoritatively that, whenever you ask for divorce, your nagging-wicked
Husband will quickly went round and distributes some token of your
children’s treasure and the story end there. What an abdication of
responsibility! Remember, there is a day of reckoning when a wicked
husband will be ask to account for all his deeds towards his wife and
her children (Kullukum Ra’in, Wa Kullu ra’in, Mas’ulun an
raiyyatihi) and on that very day, there will neither be Chuwa-Chuwa, nor
Murda-Murda, My lovely
sister, I have reached zero tolerance, my patience has been stretched to
plastic limit, I have reached a point of no return, it’s either you
seek for divorce or more appropriately go to UWA_DUNIYA. OR
alternatively, you summon courage together with some of your faithful
children to fight such an irresponsible, un-caring husband, for that
will be the only panacea to your current travails, the ball is in your
court to make or mar. Good Luck. On a final
note my dear sister, in order to safe guard myself from the infectious
disease currently afflicting you (Riga Kafi), Let it be noted that:
whereas, my current husband is discharging his responsibility to the
best of his ability, whereas, he show tremendous resolve to carry
everybody (my children) along, in discharging his mandate, whereas, I,
together with my children agree that, we are satisfied so far, with the
way and manner we are being treated, we do solemnly resolved that: There
is no Vacancy in 2007 Nikah(marriage), till the year2011 in_sha Allah,
so prospective suitors should therefore beware! Beside that, Only
candidate nominated by the current Husband shall be accepted,
consequently, never again, shall I allow anybody to come and marry me
just because he has money, connections and sweet- talks, proven track
records of achievements, complete lack of vanity, strong commitments to
Shari’ a and last but not the least The Fear of Allah (S. W. T.) Will
be the yardsticks that will qualify the will be husband to get my
consent. Anything to the contrary will be resisted in Toto. Yours
sincerely, Kabiru Inuwa Tsakuwa (D\Kudu) Zoo road, Tsakuwa2000@yahoo
.com
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