The Fall of the African Sweet Mother

By

Obadiah Oghoerore Alegbe

Oghoerore@oviri.com.ar

I read with sadness and stupor the news of child trafficking in our homeland. First it was a so called Pastor, a woman that calls in pregnant women to sell the children. This is the extent to which Nigeria has copied all the immoral values of the Western World. Nigerians have not copied good medical services, technological know how, urbanization, sanitary system and many more that gives comfort to lives found in the western world, but we came in with nonsensical ladies instead of our older people first that promotes equality on both sexes, we replaced polygamy with boy friends and girl friends which ends up destroying lives of women and the very fundamental family values.

Instead of following the example of Japan that stole all the technological know how of the West while preserving its own values, we imported all the stuffs that destroyed the family. In the USA, more than seventy percent of the women in jail are black because while the Caucasians maintains some values known to them for ages, the black people have taken to copy the habit of the streets in their home, laws were passed for the streets and the black man applied it to the home and messed up his home. The black man all over the world have respect for people based on age and not sex, the older people were called oldmen or oldlady.  That is our heritage. Today we have a middle class that have copied all the immoral acts found in the Western World. In the evening cars go into our University Campuses looking for girls who sells their body for money and protection. I witnessed it. It is a fundamental violation of human rights. Very soon another value will be added from the Western World where on Saturday evening a man will drive to the park with his wife, the woman will go with another man and he will go with another man’s wife – They called them swingers just for a change and these the same people that went to church to vow until death do us part.

If you listen well to the words of the African song Sweet Mother, you will find out the findings in Lagos of child trafficking is a sacrilege against our African tradition. This is the fall of The African Sweet Mother. The African woman was known to protect children, this value should have been the focus of feminists to protect womanhood and motherhood but instead they have declared war on men like in the Western World where marriage  is a simple contract and when the divorce arrives you can see hatred accumulated between man and woman. If you want to see how man and woman hate each other, go to divorce hearing in the Americas.

We Africans take family as sacred. Even Plinus the Roman lawyer in 60 AD wrote “Quibus nihil erat santius quam domus” there is possible no where as sacred as home. This is fundamental in African tradition. The Patriarchal systems affirms it through respect for the older. A German girl friend I had in 1980 told me that a people that respect older people last long. We survived invasion by the Romans, Asians, Portuguese and Arabs because of the sacred value of respect to older people. Slaves carried away from Africa maintained this value to survive and automatically the older protected the child even though both were slaves and the child looked at the older as father or mother. Dig into African America records and you will prove my point. If we replace older people first with imported values, let us be ready for our self destruction.

Jews survive today because they hold firm to values. In the synagogues in new York women stand outside at worship even under the rain. Elizabeth Taylor stands outside during worship. In Argentina, women sit upstairs farther away from the pulpit. Jewish women are hardly seen involved with women’s liberation. Argentina had the third largest Jewish community in the world, I have many friends among them, I admire how they hold to their values for survival, Nigerians went to study abroad to bring home homosexuality and lesbianism as signs of civilization. Few years back, Nigerians murdered themselves in thousands in the name of our Creator based on imported values. We surely are worst enemies of our own people. “Ona wa jin” Yoruba say, our goal is tu far away from us. Now Nigerian women are out to exploit women, the person responsible for our girls as prostitutes in Italy is a woman. All the prostitute centres in Lagos have a matron. And even after church those girls line up for business. No more pudor. What madness?

I could never believe that an African woman will do such a business or any woman would do such a business in Africa let alone one who calls herself a Pastor. This is one evidence that women’s liberation and so called equality activists are only looking for their bread and in fact they hate women. The love for the woman must be for her to preserve her home and not break it up; our traditions have all the protocols for this. The Urhobo have “aghware eghweya” womens council that can sue a man for maltreating his wife without breaking up the marriage, this value should be the root of our legislations and not carbon copy of the Western world where men marry men and women marry women. The fallen Western World. The African woman needs to be rescued. The wild exposure of African women to the Western world is turning into a problem and curse even for themselves.

Africans must go back to the traditional values of the family inherited from our ancestors. Education will help change the values that are needed to be changed, but this copying of all the evil part of the Western world is not helpful to Africa.

Boy friends and girl friends business have replaced the responsible extended African family system and when the girl gets pregnant the man runs away, she ends up selling her child to a Pastor (monster). Is that Sweet Mother?

Many women have their hope to build a home destroyed. Many women even well educated have children for different men in Nigeria. Here in Argentina, it is unthinkable that a well educated woman will have children for different men and referred to them as my child’s dad, that is a sign of illiteracy and not of women’s liberation. Women’s liberations is spear headed in the Western World by lesbians, but women who enjoy heterosexual relations have nothing to do with women’s liberation. No! Not these white women here in Argentina. I have more white women in my life than Africans, I know these ones. Their focus on women’s liberation is that man should also wash dishes and cook but not of replacing a man. The Argentine white women are too selfish for the idea of replacing men, that attitude is for the negras, they go from men to men having children everywhere. In my new job, I went in suit one day, my co-engineer a woman said “How smart, if you had not been married I would have offered myself now”. I told her that my culture and tradition allows that I have more than one wife and everybody laughed but she said “I am too selfish and I cannot share my man with another” . This young woman has nothing to do with anti-men women’s liberation. Let us go back to our roots.

Let me express my disappointment at Niger State Governor, I am one of those who spoke against the establishment of religious laws in Nigerian, but I remain a little bit calm that the success of Shariah in those States may send a message to the Christian South to understand that our die hard link with the Western world is taken us far away from God, and Christian women may know to what limit they carry feminism nto but now I see that Shariah laws in Nigeria was not intended to better the society morally but to boost impunity of the rich.

One of my childhood friends used to shout when we played in Osogbo in 1960 - Laila i lalahu - There is no King but Allah. The Shariah States must bear in mind that there is no King but God Almighty, for that reason they must not replace God, they must come down to earth and see their neighbour's needs. Let us elevate an earthly government to God by doing the right thing and democracy is the best form of elevating the kingdom of this earth to God instead of lowering the kingdom of God to earth as it is now done in

The Northern Nigeria. Only God can lower His Kingdom to the earth.

The Shariah States seem to have failed. Where are the almajris when children of absolute poverty were being traded for money? How can poverty so hit a State that boasts of giving Nigeria two Presidents to the extent that their children are being sold?  The answer is that the money that would have been used to build the economy, schools and hospital in this State  for theses children and provide jobs for their parents have been used to build great mansions on hilltops, and to prevent revolt of the people, religious leaders have been used to impose theocracy on the people, now the result is out, parents are so poor that they did not bother whether their children came home or not because they (the children) are in the hand of God.

I have absolute respect for the faith of others and democracy, if Shariah State believe that their system is better, then let them hold justice firm as an example for other states in Nigeria.

This discovery of slavery is evidence that theocracy in the Northern Nigeria is like the old governments in Latin America under the influence of the Catholic Church that covered up governments of crooks and thieves and violators of human rights. It is evidence that the Government of God is beyond human execution. Man can never carry out theocracy that is why God allows us democracy where we can speak for ourselves, our needs, where can be our judges based on our idiosyncrasy. In a civilized society, the Governor of Niger State should have resigned for a personal dignity, because he like almost all the governors of Nigeria even the President have failed the people.

To remedy the situation I call on all the tree-tire government in my beloved homeland to face the challenge of our time by carrying our an inclusive economic policy - inclusive means including mama alakara, mama oniresi, the suya mala on the streets, the sanu mala that sells sosorobia, the palm wine tapper, the burukutu seller, the tombo taper of Sapele, the truck pusher, the alaaru, the agbero, the fisherman, the black smith, the shoe shiner, the shoe maker, the brick layer etc that are part of the masses. With this no woman will be ashamed of pregnancy to sell the child that she had carried under any condition for sale. It is taboo. Children adoption is the new form of slavery introduced in the Western World. I am of the believe that a child does not need a different mother but rather the mother needs to be included in the economy by providing her a job that she could live by, a medical service to care for the child. African tradition will take care of her relationship with the man.

I call on the feminists to use African tradition to hold the man and not chase him away with Western Laws. In African tradition, it is touch and play, if you touch her, take up the responsibility. Publish the names of big guys that abandoned their traditional duty to women and children. Also teach young women to submit only to men that will lift them up and lecture these young chaps how to identify them. Under our tradition, both families investigate each other, a modern method that women organizations can employ is to device a means for young women to know before inserting their head into a relationship, this will require a campaign and a network of women groups based not on destroying our family structures but of making it stronger thus reducing prostitution and the need to sell children. If you need software for this, I will be happy to donate one written out of my sweat. If a child looses his identity, DNA test can take us to the family and will be returned to his root, for this, women organizations can call us to raise fund for this technology to be given to them, here again we are boosting the African tradition that a child belong to the community and the community have the obligation to bring up the child. His roots must be maintained, it is a fundamental right of the child.

I want to thank the wife of the Vice President Mrs. Titi Atiku, her great works is known of to many of us all over the world.

Madame! I am very convinced that through your work you have gained a place for yourself in paradise. Your work is what is expected of African womanhood different form those born again feminists that just want to import by all means the satanic feminism of lesbians from the Western World. Mrs. Atiku is an example of African womanhood and motherhood. She is the Sweet Mother of Africanism.

Madam! I have no money to donate to your noble foundation, but if you have some who can donate six or more computers to you, let me know how your organization functions, I will then sit down by my computer to sweat and create a software that you can use to run the foundation. I can donate those hours to your foundation. Your office can reach me by mails and I will let you know of my requirements of hardware and once you get it, I will proceed to give you the software. It will be simple to install and almost maintenance free. I repeat, yours is the feminism that Africa needs. I pray to God Almighty to protect your children and grant you long life to enjoy them.

Obadiah Oghoerore Alegbe

Oghoerore@oviri.com.ar